Comments for effervescence

Comment on space for emotions to be by Ben

Ben — Fri, 18 May 2012 07:34:43 +0000

I’m someone who often finds myself trying to suppress emotions. Thanks for sharing this.

Comment on space for emotions to be by Mel

Mel — Wed, 16 May 2012 17:56:53 +0000

Appreciating this truth & your bravery in sharing it, in providing space for yourself (& so for others too).

Comment on space for emotions to be by Louise Ann Knight

Louise Ann Knight — Wed, 16 May 2012 17:09:21 +0000

Great article Kylie. I use a quick visualisation to help me when I feel overwhelmed. Emotions flow like water, so I picture myself as the land that it flows through and over. The image holds an immovable strength that helps me. Just like standing firm as a parent is sometimes a peaceful way to remind children just who is in charge!

Comment on space for emotions to be by Lee Anne

Lee Anne — Tue, 15 May 2012 20:29:24 +0000

This is so timely. My therapist and I were just discussing this yesterday. So often, well meaning friends and loved ones want us to be “over” a situation before we’ve healed. Taking the time and holding the space to grieve, cry, laugh, whatever is a critical step in healing.

Thanks for this!

Comment on how i navigate shopping as a highly sensitive person by Kate Hayes

Kate Hayes — Sun, 13 May 2012 16:29:22 +0000

The only problem with it is that the menu-planning is difficult, and Iput it off until it’s really a drag and becomes a stress fest all its own. But it’s still better than the alternative. It’s very nice to know I’m not really crazy.

Comment on what if you took them at their word? by Kate

Kate — Fri, 11 May 2012 04:32:15 +0000

I know that when I’d thought about living like this in the past I wanted some guarantee that we’re all on the same page… some assurance that it will work/won’t ruin everything… So thankful to be older and wiser enough for a “what if” to be enough to take a leap! As I practice this radical brand of authenticity in my life I notice the people around me starting to follow suit–it’s awesome!

Comment on what if you took them at their word? by Kylie

Kylie — Thu, 10 May 2012 14:00:11 +0000

Jesse: So true! It seems to be very much an issue of culture (as Lynn also said in her comment), and of what’s socially acceptable in different situations. For me, it seems much more comfortable to request something that has a set exchange value, like a ride in a taxi. It also feels harder to ask for what I need and respect boundaries with people who I’m in more emotionally complex relationships with. For instance, it feels easier with a stranger than with a family member.

Lynn: SUCH a good point. I’ve never lived in the South, but Seattle (my hometown) does have a similar stereotype of a “passive-aggressive” culture. I’d imagine that’s even more pronounced in the South. And yes, personal choices and exchanged do seem much stickier, as you said, than professional ones. Perhaps partly because there’s more vulnerability there than at work where, to an extent, we generally present some sort of professional persona?

Comment on what if you took them at their word? by Lynn

Lynn — Wed, 09 May 2012 17:27:17 +0000

I love this post because I wish more people would do this for me: believe me that I’ll express a need if I have one.
However, I live in the south, and it can be a very passive-aggressive culture. I am too often surprised by someone using an “anything is fine/whatever you think/up to you” sort of comment as a test. It’s easy to deal with professionally because I can email my choices and include a subtle reminder that the choice was left to me. Personally, however, it’s a stickier trap.

Comment on what if you took them at their word? by Jesse

Jesse — Wed, 09 May 2012 15:32:48 +0000

I’m loving this picture in accompaniment. I’m thinking about the way in which some contexts (giving a destination in a taxi) I am perfectly comfortable asking for and receiving exactly what I request. It’s part of the culture of that space. Whereas the culture of other spaces (relationships where I don’t feel confident of the terms of engagement) leads me to confusion about whether I can have (or take) what I ask for, or whether other offers are heartfelt or half-proffered.

Thanks for this thoughtful moment

Comment on how i navigate shopping as a highly sensitive person by Kylie

Kylie — Tue, 08 May 2012 14:03:18 +0000

Kate: Crazy?! To me, that is pure genius. Seriously. I don't know if I have the planning foresight to actually do that, but I'm definitely going to keep it in mind in case I do happen to feel like being a planner. I can imagine that that would make food shopping so much easier for me. You're a smartie!